Sunday, November 22, 2009

5 reasons that might destroy the friendship between a man and a woman

"For men, all women - women, except the one he loves, it is for him - a man. For women, all men - the people, besides, she loves it for her - a man. "



The debate on whether there is a friendship between a man and woman in general, have not ceased for a very long time. Someone says that it is and proves it by example, someone secondly, that the friendship between the sexes, and there can not be.



How many people - so much and opinions. But now is not about that. For example, the friendship between the sexes still exists. Unfortunately, save it for many years much more difficult than to destroy. "Kill" a friendship can be, making only one wrong step, yielding momentary desire or crossed some invisible line.



There are many reasons that can destroy the friendship between a man and a woman. Here are just a few of them.



1. Recognition in Letter

You know a thousand years, played together in the sandbox, went to kindergarten, were sitting at a desk .... Now you no longer 15, awkward age behind. The guy you are familiar with since childhood, becoming a man. You all also nice talking to, you can share with him everything in the world, talk about their love triumphs and defeats, complain "to the vest" and say, until the morning in the kitchen for a cup of coffee. You have him comfortable and quiet, he never asked for something more ... But one day, still sitting on the very same kitchen, he suddenly recognized you in love. Says so that in all the intercepts: that has long been in love with you, can not imagine my life without you and that wants to try to engage in closer relations. Such recognition can ruin the friendship once and for all. The same thing could happen in the reverse situation, when you fall in love with his childhood friend and tell him about his feelings.



2. "Friendly" Sex

Personally I have nothing but the phrase "friendly sex" causes confusion and irony. But quite often on the Internet or in glossy magazines found precisely such a notion. After drinking one day with a friend, you find yourself in one bed. When you wake up in the morning, this story does not look so cheerful as the previous evening. My head aches, mood is ruined, relationships - too. Not always carried out after a stormy night, you can restore what was before her.



3. Get married, or being in love with another man

When one of the "friends" married or married - the friendship may be interrupted. You may need just a little break. Perhaps it forever.

Not every woman will perceive the news that her husband is one female, with great enthusiasm, and positive emotions voob



A similar situation could arise if one of the two of you meet the man fell in love, wants to hold him all his spare time, etc. In this case, it will disappear from the horizon, the calls will respond briefly and reluctantly, your meetings will become less and less, and then, perhaps, cease Islands



4. Disappointment, loss of interests

A woman can be friends with a man only if he is really interested in her. As companion, mentor, assistant .... If the interest of communication disappears - dies, and friendship. With men this is the case a little different, assert psychologists: they could be friends with a woman only if she is physically attracted him. If this situation occurs in frustration - as a result, loses interest, and with friendly ties can say goodbye.



5. Ryovna

Yes, yes, the friendship between the sexes, it is also possible. Your friend calls you for a thousand times a day, asked to report on how and with whom you spend your free evening ... How are you and your friend, a man may be jealous of your friends, girlfriends, lovers, and even her husband. Here the situation is similar to what happens in normal loving relationship. If jealousy becomes intolerable, goes some boundaries, it is worth considering whether you need a friend?



In my subjective opinion, friendship - is what happens between two people, regardless of gender, age, creed or color. Hetero friendship hrupche than usual. And if you found a real friend - a man, I'm truly envious. Appreciate and cherish these relations.



Opinions:

Chudo: «I believe that the friendship between a man and a woman there. But it is not eternal. There is, until one of them crossed the border. But there are friends (judging from personal experience) with which you are interested, a lot in common, there is mutual understanding and mutual support, but you are not physically attracted. And this mutual, I know that I do not like this man, and in principle can not be like, but it strikes me inner peace and a better friend than he had in my life there, and will not be! "



Reed to: "Who said that definitely should be something more? I, for instance, was my favorite girl, my treasure, and a girl - a friend, just a friend and nothing more, and it is cool, so that may be. Not everything in this world is based on sex. So I can say that love and friendship, things are very different in character and in the perception, saying that the friendship man, one who is not perceived as a sexual object. "

"Oh sex, how many in that sound, to the heart of our blended ..."

There is much talk about him now, not in my opinion a man who does not know what it is ... Back in ancient times, not quite, everything was covered with a shroud secrecy, but those days are gone, how goes everything in our lives. Now came the other times, and now even children in kindergarten know what it is and how it happens. Times change, but the fact remains. Sex - is a spiritual and physical intimacy between two people, which can only be done with the full understanding and respect for each other. And sex, which happens if you want one and forcing another - is no longer a spiritual affinity, and the usual violence that now occur very often, almost every step. Now teens can sleep sometimes even without knowing their partner. For example, hitting on any outdoor party, you can observe how the influence of alcohol - this is happening, as if by itself. The guy spends all night with the girl, whom he met just hours ago, and then: If both are heavily intoxicated, nobody cares what will happen next. And then, as the saying is unwanted gifts in the form of pregnancy (60% of cases). And then that:? And then - an abortion in 30% of infertility. Sometimes it ends with AIDS. That so imperceptibly that the rope stretches, which in principle could not be, if all young people understand the true meaning of the word "sex".



Well enough to enumerate the bad side and collect all the bad things, even if true, turn to the main, lists errors that allow for sex.

Here you finally left alone, no one opposed to this, you will both burn with a desire to gradually move to the case:



What not to do than ever:



To tear off her clothes - often make a mistake: (let herself, or undress just better start kissing her while she was still dressed, gradually increasing her desire to get rid of clothes, give her the most to want. Turn the release of the clothing of the entire process, long sex scene, which in itself is a good tactic would not be long delayed, but it only happens if the girl likes it) ...

The rush, as if you five minutes to extinguish the fire cause: (correctly, if you get to the states rush for three seconds, it does not say anything about that and she does too. A girl and a "something" that you more Interestingly it does not always keep pace with your members, it responds to petting and kissing). Over than to rush things, if you simply do not have time and desire through the edge of the rod, a good decision, and this situation will be just what you should postpone this activity until better times, and not torturing either himself or the girl - wise. Of course you are not satisfied with this option, but it is true. "Hold on buddy, be strong my friend, and then somehow, you will be able to realize their dreams):

Do not pull the chest: (I do not think that if you do it badly, somebody likes it. When you are bottom, of course, want to grab as much as possible. And usually it turns out that you pull her breasts to him. For girls is not only painful, but besides making it the mother of the heroine with two inflated bags hanging from the chest. Yes, I do not argue that the breast - this is also erogenous zone, and when you touch her, the woman is excited, "NO" Think for yourself, if you start with the force of her pull, is that the pleasure, she's not milking a cow): That's it, so gradually I approach the most-himself.

Never have to require that the light was on, if a girl does not want this, then do not need to force - why inflame tensions when you're already so close: (yes, I forgot, you could this terrible humiliation, tk it will not see your dignity in all its glory, will not see every curve of your body, but it's worth to choose, or you will go on an assignment, or you screwed abruptly breaking off, as they say, the most interesting place. "absolute darkness to anything, but include night-light, you can: so the two of you will feel tolerably well. And while it is satisfied that its not blinding light and you, because she can see what you want):

If undress, then at least completely. (If today you decided to actually have sex with a girl, not a "perepihnutsya in haste," then be good to get undressed too late. If you think that good sex is enough to unbutton his fly, then here you are wrong. She did not want , ran his eyes over your figure, found in the completion of a couple of ridiculous socks. If and decided to undress, then at least completely):

Nevzdumay ask her this stupid question: "Yes, how are you?" Or "have already reached?": (How long can that for contempt, the girl can take time, but you every five minutes with this issue, the time will come, and she will tell you):

Do not even think to invent different positions, especially when you first with her: (talking like a girl, not like each stand in any position you dreamed up for it can be humiliating and painful. Especially when you first came up with it bed, she would feel embarrassed, it will not by itself, and you suddenly put it neponyat as long as you feel comfortable. The most important thing in sex - this respect):

Nevzdumay only caress the clitoris: (finally reaching the clitoris, you perceive it as a great lever, which immediately cut in her passion at full capacity. Zatseluy course, deliberately flattering and it all before you head for the most sensitive area. And when you get, be more careful . Be gentle and she will give you full):

Do not act like an animal: (you know, tell you a secret, African passion - is to the amateur. You be confident and calm at the same time, learn to behave in hands. Calm, unhurried sex - it is really what needs to be a girl. The girl on the nature creating a gentle, soft: And you'll tear it apart, well, as you imagine it?):

Nevzdumay slip away: (I said and I will always say, if you do not have time, then just put it off until later. After sex, the girl really needs you to be close. When he had finished, do not jump out of bed, otherwise she would feel unbearably lonely):

(!)... And do not forget to protect themselves, and then who knows maybe you parted again in a week, but here you have an issue suddenly crawls out out ...(!)

If some do not know what it is and what they are, then, as help and advice I'll tell a little about them.



Modern condoms are made mainly from natural latex (sap from the rubber tree Hevea), and sometimes, but a very small amount is made of genuine leather and natural membranes, because they are too expensive and often do not provide adequate protection. There are also of synthetic polymers, however, for they have not been able to achieve acceptable performance on the tensile strength and durability.



Also attending the classification by size, but here I am not very strong, and well I do not know all these nuances, all the same guys here more and more oriented, but still try to describe.



- Length of condoms should not be less than 170 mm. And the width should be equal to the width should be in the range of 44-56 mm. Often sold in Russia condoms, usually have a width of 52 mm. They are produced mainly in Malaysia, Indonesia, Korea, Vietnam, China, well there at all, and grows where the base material.



If you want a hundred per cent effect, you need to know how to use it, not everyone knows how to treat them properly, especially beginners.



Rules:



The most simple - every time you use a new condom.
Open the packaging carefully to avoid damaging the condom.
Put the condom when the penis is in an excited state. Push the end of the condom with your fingers, put it on the head. Holding the end of the condom, Stretch it toward the base of the penis.

Immediately after use is desirable and necessary to remove it immediately.
Do not touch the condom or penis sheath, when the penis has been removed.

Also classified by type, but again, we enumerate the most common:

1. The quality of the product.

Smooth. Conventional condoms without any special structure.
Condoms, with different special dressing - ribs, bumps or a combination thereof.

2. For availability and quality of lubricant.
-No lubrication.
Plain-lubrication. The standard lubricant is usually used silicone oil or monopropilenglikol.
-Abundant (doubling the number of lubricants).

-Flavored grease. In the lubricant added flavor - the smell of perfume, fruit (apple, orange, banana, strawberry, etc.) or other.

-Spermicidal lubricant. In the lubricant added substance that kills sperm and reduces their mobility. This reduces the risk of accidental pregnancy, even if the condom broke.
-Grease, extended sexual intercourse (grease postpones ejaculation without compromising erection).

3. Other grounds.
-Increase in size.
-Thicker condoms.
-Ultrafine.
-Luminous (glow in the dark).
- Samonadevayuschiesya (when minimized a condom with him rolled rubber band. To make enough to put on a condom to the glans penis and pull the ribbon).

Using a condom can significantly reduce the risk of infection by many bolezyami, prevent unwanted pregnancies.



And finally I say, very important thing.



Nothing ever, if you're alone, do not be shy. Never anyone not discuss his personal sex life (with the exception only for doctors) and never let anyone condemn their intimate life, even if you do something by accident it was announced. Intimate life of each - is the intimate life of each.



I have always believed and will believe that personal life is personal and not to posveschat it strangers. Here, for example, most young people talk about their amorous adventures of his friends, discussing this or that young lady. I think this is wrong and I think that I was right. Well, how well you can excuse the expression: "Well, if you slept, so as not to cry about it at every turn" - is also "personally." I personally watched as a painting, as the guy came home and met on the way home, his friends and told them that he first slept with a girl, and then they all began to congratulate him, and then go do it cause to celebrate. If you are the person lie down in bed, you must trust him completely, but as there confidence if you will completely sure about that tomorrow finds the whole city. I still hate the male point of view, that they no girl has no right to refuse. It is also idiotic. Here, for example, will examine young people aged 16 to 19. In that age is a terrible picture, if a girl refused guy, it it no longer fully communicate and circulate rumors about her that she was "whore." But otherwise, he is friends with her, until he needs it, but when on the horizon appears a different skirt, he immediately rushes to meet her, throwing her, so to speak favorite. But if you leave in good fails, it again spreads rumors about her that she was "a whore", and then offers it to his friends.



It is ironic, but true.

Female Sexuality

What we know about female sexuality?

According to the well-known feminist writer Shire Hite, medicines and pills will not add women and sexuality were not allowed to fully enjoy sexual life, despite the assurances of doctors.

His attitude to the problem of female sexual dysfunction Haight expressed in the British Medical Journal, which drew a parallel between the sexual problems of women and the development of new drugs for their detection and treatment. The more drugs come to market, the more, according to Chait, there is a problem in women.



"The pharmacological industry is guilty not only of his cynical attitude towards women's issues, which is making a lot of money, but being unwilling to understand the nature and mechanism of female sexuality" - Shire Chait wrote in the journal New Scientist.



According to Haight, to address the problem of female sexual dysfunction requires no medications, and a detailed study of the relationship between a man and a woman!



According to the results of research Shire Hite, during masturbation, most women can achieve orgasm and to obtain sexual satisfaction, and only 2% of women need to vaginal penetration to achieve orgasm.



Women are not difficult to achieve orgasm, says Chait, and they know how to do it. One of the problems of female sexual dysfunction - is to overcome themselves and the ability to talk openly and honestly about their sexual desires with a partner. A well-advertised pills that increase female libido, not able to make a woman happy and teach her to enjoy sexual life.